If you’re reading this, that means that I’ve officially turned 28 years old. Yes, that’s right. I only have two years left before I hit the big 30. I’m trying not to think about that, though. Two years is still a long time, so I have plenty more opportunities to make mistakes before I’m officially declared a ‘grown-up’ in the eyes of society… because by the time you hit 30 you have to have your life figured out, right?
In all honesty, we really shouldn’t put pressure on an age. Everyone has their own journey and comparing ours to others’ can be extremely detrimental. (I’m writing this down because maybe if I tell myself this more often I’ll start to believe it. After all, It’s difficult not to compare.) When I was a kid I thought by the time I was 28 I’d have it all figured out. That is just not the case, I’m afraid. I’m still learning and discovering where I want to be in my life, and that’s okay. That being said, I have learned a lot of life lessons in my 28 years... 28 to be exact. (Actually, I’ve learned more than 28 things... but one, I don’t have the time to write it all down, nor, I’d imagine you’d have the time to read it. And two, ‘28 Life Lessons I’ve Learned In 28 Years,’ was a more eye-catching title than “All The Life Lessons I’ve learned in 28 years.”)
So, without further ado, here are 28 Life Lessons I’ve Learned in 28 Years:
1. You cannot try and change people. I mean, you can try, but it just won’t work. I have a really bad habit of doing this and the results are NEVER good.
2. There’s a fine line between loving a person and loving the IDEA of a person. The two often get confused with each other which can end up being very emotionally damaging.
4. Invest. Think of your long-term financial goals. It’s easy to save for a vacation or a nice bag, but those won’t help you into retirement. Plan for your future while also living in the present.
5. Drink water. Loads of it.
6. Be spontaneous, but don’t be stupid.
7. Some people come into your life for a short time, and that’s okay. Don’t try to force relationships that have fizzled out.
8. If they are interested in you, YOU WILL KNOW!!!
9. If it’s not going to matter in five years, it’s not worth stressing about now.
10. If something doesn’t seem right, it probably isn’t. Trust your gut.
11. If you’re upset about something, the worst thing you can do is get drunk. It just makes you feel worse and increases the likelihood of making impulsive, bad choices.
12. Know your worth.
13. Know the foundations of a healthy diet and avoid processed foods. Many health issues are diet-related.
14. Sweat at least once a day.
15. Be comfortable with your own company. Take yourself out to a movie, show, or restaurant. You’ll miss out on many beautiful things life has to offer if you’re constantly waiting on people to join you.
16. ASK THAT CUTE PERSON ON A DATE. This goes for anyone, regardless of gender. Screw gender norms. If you don’t ask, you’ll always wonder what could have been.
17. Go to the dentist.
18. Go for a health check-up.
19. Vagina owners, GET YOUR SMEARS DONE.
20. If you get the chance to live abroad, DO IT.
21. Travel as MUCH as you are able to.
22. Only go to university if you REALLY need the degree, and don’t go straight after high school. My fancy degree is currently stuffed in a box at my parents’ house collecting dust. I’m very lucky to have had my post-secondary education paid for (thanks grandparents!), but most people aren’t that fortunate. You come out carrying student debt up the wazoo into an overcrowded job market, with stacks of overpriced textbooks you’ll never use again. Furthermore, very few people know what they want to do with the rest of their lives when they’re only 18. (...I could rant about this subject for ages.)
23. Talk to people you disagree with. We live in our own biased worlds in our social lives, including the physical world and social media. It’s important to learn about other perspectives in order to formulate your own educated opinion.
24. Ask for help when you need it. I’m well known for being Miss. Independent “I can do it myself,” but that can only get you so far. Sometimes the most efficient way of doing something is by asking for assistance.
25. Be unapologetically yourself. Unapologetically being the keyword.
26. Don’t sleep with someone out of obligation. You don’t owe anything to anyone, especially your body.
27. Don’t take yourself too seriously.
28. Don’t linger on the past. You can’t change it. What you can do, however, is learn from it.